Right now we’re being bombarded with news of temperature. Heat waves here, cold spells there. Perks of being British I suppose! But have you introduced temperature play into your sex life yet? Whether you’re an ice-cube newbie or a candle-waxing pro; read on for tips on how temperature play can leave you in an orgasmic pool of sexual ecstasy.
Hot or Cold?
Whatever temp you’re opting for, the goal is heightened sensitivity. Every tingling touch will be heightened and so will your arousal. I mean, let’s face it; your orgasm is so much better when you're gagging for it! Communicate, talk your partner through what you’re doing, ask them what feels good and what they’d like more of. Experiment. Explore Togetherness.
How?
Heated tingling massage oils and ice cold shocking lubricants are great introductory products for temperature play. But if you’d like to step it up a notch, opt for toys. The sex industry has picked up on how exciting temperature play is and voila! Toys that are great conductors of heat and the cold.
Glass
Glass dildos are perfect for temperature play. Sit the dildo in cold water for 15 minutes and then arouse your partners senses by using it in their erogenous zones. Or why not opt for a warmed glass butt plug? Heat is great for muscle relaxation so teasing, stroking and penetrating their anus with a warmed, smooth, gleaming glass plug is all the foreplay you’ll need!
Stainless Steel
If you’re looking for something a bit more heavy duty then why not opt for stainless steel? A heated steel cock ring will give him a bigger, stronger erection with heightened sensations that’ll have you both molded into a passionate tangle of pleasure. Whilst steel nipple clamps will give you that weighted painful-pleasure arousal state that you've been fantasizing about.
For those that dare walk that fine line between pain and pleasure there is wax play. Pleasure candles burn at a lower temp and are made out of paraffin wax which means they will not burn your skin like normal household candles (so don’t even think about it!). Light the candle, let the wax pool and then seductively blow it out before dripping your burning desire (the wax!) over your partner’s most sensitive areas.
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As always, safety first! Always read care instructions and research before diving into something new.
*first published by Vicky Crone in August 2022