There are three key steps to enhancing pleasure in relationships. Masturbation, mutual masturbation & communication. If you don’t know what feels good for you, then you’re going to struggle to relax into pleasure with your partner. So let’s talk mutual masturbation. 

What is mutual masturbation? 

Mutual masturbation is exactly what you think it is, you’re going to masturbate in front of your partner whilst they also masturbate. Why? Here are just six juicy reasons as to why it’s an absolute must in relationships:

 

Enhanced Communication: Before, during and after. Talk about what you’re doing and how it feels. Not only can you demonstrate desires, boundaries, and preferences, it’s also a massive turn on for your partner to hear all about your pleasure.

Shared Intimacy: Being in that space, naked and vulnerable, in front of your partner is the most intimate place you can be. During sex we’re so caught up in feelings of lust and desire (or worrying over what you look like and how you’re performing for some!), that the actual intimacy can get lost.

Mutual Pleasure: Both of you can experience pleasure simultaneously, leading to mutual satisfaction and enjoyment without pressure to perform or meet specific expectations.

Increased Trust: Engaging in mutual masturbation requires vulnerability and trust, strengthening the bond between you both and building a sense of emotional security.

Sexual Exploration: It provides an opportunity for you both to discover new techniques, erogenous zones, and fantasies in a safe and non-judgmental environment, enhancing sexual repertoire and satisfaction.

Stress Reduction: Like solo masturbation, mutual masturbation can lower stress hormones and promote relaxation, leading to a sense of ease and well-being for you both, promoting a ‘safe space’ in your partner.

 

What’s not to love, right? 

Don’t be fooled into thinking this is a quick win either, spend time exploring and pleasuring yourself whilst in this space. Promoting feelings of safety, intimacy, pleasure, respect and trust is the way to a long-lasting fulfilled relationship. 

Of course you can just use it to get off watching your partner pleasure themselves too! Bit of live porn action between partners never hurt anyone, right?!

 

Tools for enhancing mutual masturbation

The Doxy Wand

A Wand is a great way of exploring your pleasure senses over your whole body, whether you have a vulva or a penis! And Doxy are just PROS when it comes to making pleasure tools!

 

Pipedream 'do me silly' man

Don't be afraid to go big! If you have a vulva or even if you both want to demonstrate anal pleasure, this realistic masturbator is the ultimate toy for showing your partner what you want. Plus, how hot will it be to watch?!

 

Big Titty Torso

The same way the realistic penis can help you get off and show your partner what you like, so too can this realistic 'Big Titty Torso'. Aptly named, don't you think? 

 

Cupless & Crotchless

Feel free to dress the part! Not only will it make you feel sensational and give you all the confidence you need, it will also look massively HOT!!

 

Vibrating Pad

A great way to show your partner how you want them to move whilst stimulating your clitoris. Guys, if you're into stimulating the gooch (area between the penis and anus) have a go at this too whilst you're playing with your penis.

 

Lubricants

Don't forget to use plenty of lube! This is not just for aiding your pleasure, experiment with different temperatures and flavours!

 

 

 

If you have a vulva and are looking for a safe place to explore your pleasure, check out HERintimacy. I am present everyday in there to help you get out of your head and into your body, enabling you to relax into pleasure with your partner. 

Vicky Crone x