Is it okay for women to masturbate? Is it right or fair to masturbate whilst in a relationship? Should men limit their masturbation practices? In short- yes, yes, NO!!
The start of Sexual Exploration
Men start masturbating as early as 12 years old and women tend to be a tad later- usually in their late teens but some well into their 20s. There is usually a feeling of guilt that accompanies self-exploration at an early age as the need to keep this 'feral act' secret and hidden from family members or the people you live with is extreme! This feeling of guilt and shame, definitely contributes to masturbation being a taboo subject.
Solo Play
Why should we feel guilty over something so natural and something that has so many health benefits?! We shouldn't. As well as helping you sleep better, lifting your mood and helping you last longer with a partner, there is evidence that regular ejaculation can prevent prostate cancer (Men's health, 2020). Let's also face it- if you don't know what pleasures you, your partner sure as hell won't! Masturbation should definitely be a regular occurrence.
Masturbation during a relationship
Just because you're in a relationship does not mean the benefits of masturbation are non- existent! They are very much still as important and masturbation should be a healthy part of your relationship. In fact, masturbating regularly means your body naturally increases lubrication, desire and arousal (Christina McGrath Fair, 2019).
The key here is communication.
Talk to your partner about your masturbation practices and even discuss new ways of masturbating that may link to your next steamy sex session! Modern technology works wonders here- why not send a cheeky pic to your partner? Or if you're feeling really turned on, grab the vibrator and video it- I'm sure he'll be gagging for it by the time he gets home!
Top Tip- Mr&MrsC. recommend finding a sex toy that allows you to experiment with masturbation such as: the Fleshlight Stamina Value Pack for men and the Skins Rose Buddies The Rose Flix Clitoral Massager for women.
First published by Vicky Crone on 13th April 2022