Have you ever been so deep in the moment that you cannot physically orgasm or ejaculate? This is such a common problem with men of all ages. It is known in the trade as “Delayed Ejaculation” and can happen out of nowhere, or may even have been a problem for years.
So, what is it? How do I stop it? How does my partner feel about this?
Basically it boils down to your mind and body. Delayed Ejaculation can be brought on by outside stresses, relationship problems, strict regimented upbringings and even sexual trauma at a young age. There are also medical conditions that can impede a males ability to ejaculate and we would advise anyone struggling to ejaculate over a period of time to consult a professional or doctor.
Being Mr C.
Being male, I think I'm most able to speak about my own highs and lows, in this situation. I definitely have had this issue on and off for years, sometimes I struggle to finish and other times I can cum in minutes. In honesty, most of my struggles arise from stress; from work and home life, but also the sense of needing to perform. Have you ever been so excited to get at it with your partner that you have them melting in your hands and you've neglected to realise you’re not doing what gets you off at the same time?
Why are we putting ourselves under so much pressure?
Communication works like a dream here. Speak to your partner about solo masturbation practices (because after all we all know how we like it!) or even try joint masturbation to add intimacy to the scenario. Not talking to your partner will only create doubt or negative thoughts that they aren't good enough to make you cum, and this will only exacerbate the struggles you're both facing.
Communication & Improving Your Sexual Health
MrsC. and I have always been open and honest about our likes and dislikes, and issues that arise during intimacy. This has definitely helped us in being able to communicate with each other and not feel that we are dealing with struggles or lows alone. If you don’t have a partner or confidant to express yourself to, we highly recommend approaching professional help at: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/ejaculation-problems/
First published by MrC. on 27th April 2022