Society created The Orgasm Gap
For a long time society has led us to believe that the main focus of intercourse is, well, intercourse. But did you know that 40% of heterosexual women who reach orgasm during solo play, do not have an orgasm with a partner (Cox, 2022)? That’s a whole lot of women not reaching Orgasm during sex. ‘The Orgasm gap’ refers to this difference between the sexes and sheds some light on the reality.
Sex brand LELO’s heterosexual couple survey showed that while men are reaching climax 66% of the time, women are only getting there 43% of the time (Abersteen, 2021). Now we all know that actually, sex has been a taboo subject for a long, long time with the only talk of the act being that it wasn’t to be performed before marriage. More recently however, we are learning that sex is highly pleasurable and beneficial for a number of reasons- and these reasons are leading us to talk, talk, talk sex! We all now know that women can have sex for pleasure and not just to produce an heir! Yes, yes I took it that far. The Orgasm Gap is definitely a bridge gap we should be closing!
The Science Behind The Orgasm Gap
The answer is scientifically simple.
Women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm.
Ever wondered why a vibrator is shaped like a rabbit? Now you know. The ears vibrate against some 8000 nerve endings in the clitoris. That’s double the number of nerve endings in a penis! That’s right guys- you can not just shove it in and expect the magic to happen with a couple of thrusts.
Overcoming The Orgasm Gap
As we all know, toys are a great way of exploring togetherness. Mr C. and I often use toys as a way of exploring different ways to reach orgasm. Our favourite method is to use a vibrator with different settings or textures on different erogenous zones to excite a response. Sex kits are a great purchase for this. The Royal Rabbit Kit is a sex kit for couples with 3 differently shaped hollow dongs (sleeves for the vibrator), a cock ring with clitoral stimulator, anal beads, ben-wah balls, AND a super powerful 6.5inch, 1.5inch wide vibrator! Lots of stimulation, lots of exploring and lots of orgasms!
Tip- Slip the cock ring on and establish a rhythm that you can both get off to!
*First published by Vicky Crone on 9th March 2022