Is your intimacy taking a back seat amidst your busy lives? Does pleasure seem like a distant memory? Have you ever used the line 'the honeymoon period is well and truly over'?
Well, I'm here to tell you that there is no such thing as the honeymoon period!
Sure the 'experts' want us to know that after the giddy, exciting stage of exploring each other's bodies and going out for dinner without any knickers on, comes the 'real' relationship but I call BS!
Why should you stop flirting? Why should you stop exploring each other's bodies? Why should you lose that spark of desire? I mean, if more people stopped accepting the honeymoon phase as a given then perhaps we wouldn't get sucked into a relationship without passion, right?
Here's 5 ways to ensure your relationship continues to ignite that fire:
Keep touching each other!
It seems a really simple thing to say, but physical touch will keep your bodies connected! That desire for each other will not go away if physical touch is present. I'm talking hand-holding, kissing, hair-stroking, hand on the top of the arm/ on the small of the back, massage, sleeping with no pjs on! Anything that has your bodies physically connected will maintain that desire for being together.
Try a warming lubricant to caress their skin
Keep chatting!
Keep chatting to each other about your lives. Tell each other all the stories that happened in your day. Schedule at least an hour a few times a week that is phone- and-TV free to just be in each other's presence.
Light some scented candles and cuddle up with your thoughts
Schedule sex
Sex is rarely how it looks in the movies- scheduling sex is a surefire way to enjoy each other. Of course, you're not always going to want to have sex in that very moment but it's the space for your relationship that counts!
This foreplay enhancer does exactly what you need it to do
Continue dating
The beautiful thing about human beings is that we're fluid! We are ever changing and our likes and dislikes continue to evolve. If you didn't have a reason to continue dating throughout your lives together then I've just given you one. A healthy relationship involves two people coming together and choosing to be together. Continuously get to know each other and evolve independently and interdependently.
Why not explore your fantasies with a role-play date?
Go on adventures
I don't care if you're just going to the supermarket together to get away from the kids. Everything is an adventure when you're together. Also- healthy relationship consists of aligned values which means, chances are your life goals will be similar. Explore those together. Go on adventures, even if it's just for a picnic down the beach. A walk in the woods. A backpacking holiday. Do it all! The hustle and bustle of daily life will not thank you when your time is up.
A panty vibe is perfect for on the go thrills!
Life is precious and so is your relationship. The honeymoon period is not real. Your whole relationship should be filled with flirting, giggling and sexual chemistry and if you lose that? There's always Cherrisilk to get you back on track!
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